Hospice of the Valleys - Julie’s story

Julie’s story

As the Business & Community Fundraising Manager at the Hospice I am aware how important it is for loved ones to feel supported following the death of a loved one. In October 2021 I became even more acutely aware of how important this is especially in the workplace when I lost my sister Sharon to Covid very suddenly and tragically. Grief is not linear and on returning to work I was fortunate to be in an understanding and supportive environment, additional support was offered if I needed someone to talk about my feelings be it an informal chat with a colleague over a cuppa or sessions with one of our Bereavement Social Workers here at the Hospice. There was not time limit on this support which I know I can still access at any time. Knowing I work in a supportive environment really helped my transition back to work at what was a very sad and confusing time and a difficult journey was made much less daunting. It is really important for employers to show patience, compassion and be able to listen to respond to individual needs following bereavement.

Phil was shell shocked when diagnosed with Prostate Cancer three years ago, age 44. Not knowing where else to turn, Phil self-referred to the hospice, already aware of the service as his father- in- law had received support. “When I was diagnosed I was unsure where to turn. The hospice helped me understand my diagnosis and then explained the services they could provide to support me and my family” Shortly after Phil’s referral his specialist nurse saw he was suffering from a number of stress induced problems and suggested complementary therapy. “I was sceptical to begin with, but I could soon feel the benefits. My stress levels decreased and my sleep dramatically improved”. Phil received reflexology, massage and aromatherapy he also received these treatments when staying at Ysbyty Aneurin Bevan hospital. The treatments improved Phil’s physical and psychological symptoms, allowing him to open up, discussing his fears and anxieties in a safe and relaxed environment. “It was my oasis in life, it was me time and I didn’t get that anywhere else. I would highly recommend having complementary therapies to anyone who is unsure. They have helped me no end and I haven’t looked back since” Phil explained. During Phil’s journey he accessed a variety of the hospice’s services including family support, nursing and therapies. The clinical team worked together providing the support Phil needed. Phil was discharged from the hospice as his symptoms were controlled and stable. Although Phil was anxious about discharge, he worked with the team and knows that should anything change, the hospice is only ever a phone call away.